Lola Sanaba – Senior Rethoric

“Carpe Diem” means Seize The Day. Do you embrace this philosophy? 

I have grown up learning that every day is a new day only when you seize the day before. In short, it means living each day to its fullest and living without any regrets because if you regret your actions from the past day it’s possible to keep thinking about it the next day and the day after that and not actually focus on what is important, the present. I moved to Naperville two weeks before my freshman year started. I moved from India. I was born in Louisville, Kentucky and lived there until I was six years old after moving to India from Louisville, I went to an international school in India that’s motto is “Carpe Diem.” I believe it is a good motto to keep in mind whenever life gets in the way and things do not go your way. 

               Throughout my short seventeen years alive, I have gone through many challenges that have shaped my view on multiple subjects such as politics, race, culture, and environment but we hear about that on the news every day, what we don’t hear about every day is mental health. I previously touched on the topic of regretting your actions from the past and how you keep thinking about it. This is a basic example of regret a more extreme version would be regretting an action and not being able to sleep, eat or function properly. It feels like it is eating you up from the inside, which is a mental health disorder. 

               So, to answer the question of whether I embrace the philosophy the answer is yes, I do because it is one of the most important life lessons anyone will ever learn. How to live in the present and seize today then move on to tomorrow like it is a new day. 

 

https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/23/investing/asian-market-latest/index.html

China and the US have been trading partners since the early 1970s and now the leaders of the respective nations, Donald Trump and Xi Jinping, are having a trading dispute. It started with President Trump increasing tariffs and other trade barriers in order to force China to make changes to its apparently “unfair” trade practices.

 

The CNN Business post “Chinese Stocks Decline After US Trade Talks Show Signs OF Faltering” by Laura He, states “… Chinese delegation reportedly canceled a scheduled visit to US farms, fueling pessimism about the prospect of a trade truce between the world’s two largest economies”. These talks of a “trade truce” have been going on for months now but with no results, a cancelation on China’s part just may have been the last straw for the American government.

There was a reported loss of around 13% in stocks just over the last 3 weeks. It can be broken down like this:

1. Hong Kong Exchange & Clearing (HKXCY) reported a loss of 1.9% in shares
2. Fosun International (FOSUF) went down in shares by 1.5% while its subsidiary Fosun Tourism declined by 4.7%
3. The UTour Group, based in Beijing, went down by 4.9% after a horrible bus crash in Utah killed four Chinese tourists

Morgan Stanley is a multinational investment bank and financial services company based out of America. An analyst at Morgan Stanley, Chetan Ahya said that progression has continuously been stalled the talks of a trade truce but there has been no action in order to actually achieve a truce between the two nations. Many representatives have called the multiple meetings “productive” and “constructive” but no elaboration has been made on either side.

How “productive” and “constructive” was the meeting if no one in the government is telling us what actually happens behind closed doors. Are they being unproductive or productive? What are they hiding from the public? But to relieve the ongoing trade tensions, both countries must come to an agreement. Even though the stocks in China have gone done by 13% there are signs of the ongoing trade war stopping.

           

               Am I too fat? Did I say something wrong? Can you see my sweat stains from gym? These questions are in every teenager’s mind every day, during each class, and during any social interaction. There has always been a distinct line between what teenagers should worry about, and what they shouldn’t need to worry about. For example, high school seniors- like me- should be worried about college applications but instead are worried about what other students think of them. 

                High school students already have so much on their plates, yet they still seek validation from classmates who they will probably never see again. In what world does that make sense? Do I need to look great while I try to further my education? No. Do I wish I could? Yes, of course, I do. But let’s be realistic, how many high school students show up in leggings/sweatpants and a sweatshirt every day of the week? The answer is more than half of the total student body. It has gotten to the point that if I dress up one day, my friends say “Good luck on your presentation. I know you have one because you never dress up” and I agree. But putting my story aside, research has shown that social/peer pressure can cause teenagers to become insecure and self-conscious, causing an increase in depression and anxiety. 

                 Many parents often say that “it’s just a phase,” or “they’ll get over” or even “it’s okay, she’s just sad”–my own parents are guilty of repeatedly doing this. Sadness is not the same emotion as depression. Sadness is the emotion you feel when you fail a math quiz but depression is a mental disorder that unfortunately many teenagers are diagnosed with. It first starts out with a loss of feeling any emotion and progresses on to extreme sadness, loss of interest, and unfortunately ends up in suicide, if gone untreated and unspoken. “The Impact of Unspoken Peer Pressure” by Northwestern Medicine states that many students experience “unspoken” peer pressure such as early or late puberty, sideways glances, and the impractical expectations they are subjected to such as the intense amount of homework, school work, and extracurriculars–anything that makes them different and often enough, these “different” students tend to act out instead of showing their actual emotions. Some of the main tendencies are trouble concentrating, withdrawal, boredom, and anxiety/depression. 

               Who? Women or men? Who is more susceptible to depression through peer pressure? Most would think women, I concur. A 2013 study by JAMA Psychiatry, revealed that there are no significant differences in the rates of women and men that have depression. More research conducted in 2019, unveiled different results: women are twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression than men. This means that women generally have more possibilities of being pressured and stressed, for instance when a woman goes through puberty, pregnancy, post-pregnancy, and menopause their body is changing and they cannot control what is happening to them. No matter the gender, a human’s natural instinct is to want to control especially if they don’t have control over themselves. There are all of these logical facts linking depression and women but according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention men are four times more likely to commit suicide than women and the people that say they are fine aren’t actually fine. It’s all for show. 

               Talking about suicide and depression may be a hard topic for some people and it is understandable why, but if we look at the statistics we would know that the topic is one we must discuss not only in school but at home as well. A horrifying reality is that 20% of all high school students are diagnosed with depression before they head to college. The worst part of it all is that highschool is leaving highschool students completely unprepared for the rude awakening of college. Peer pressure is a huge deal in high school but college is like a different world. Just like the transition from middle school to high school, high school to college is a huge leap. Freshmen year of college you are trying to make a point, make your name known, and make yourself independent. However, unnecessary pressure can add up and take a toll on your body, mind, and soul leaving you exhausted from trying to make friends and impress your peers. 

              

               Let’s move on to a more intimate setting. Pressure in a relationship. It was reported that 50% of teenagers in a relationship feel pressured by either their friends or their partner, sometimes even both. It is not unheard of when a teenager, normally a male (not assuming based on facts) is pressured by friends into doing certain activities that they may not be ready for, unconsciously pressuring his significant other. This is not healthy and can cause depression with thoughts that his significant other does not love him leading to jealousy, anxiety, and mistrust in the relationship. This negatively affects the mentality and emotions of a young person. Young men are also pressured by society to “act like a man” or “stop acting like a girl”. It is ingrained in their brains from a young age that they need to be masculine and can’t express certain emotions. Any male that does not fall into this category is seen as an outcast or less of a man. The need to fit into the typical definition of masculinity becomes the breeding ground for feelings of worthlessness and anxiousness in young boys eventually causing depression and social anxiety in the future. These apparent “outcasts” who happen to be kids are viewed as wimpy and annoying. In addition, they start acting out and then pulling away from friends and family which is a sign of depression. 

                Well, we know that many of our peers are going through a rough time. Why don’t we say anything? Why do we stay away from the supposed “outcasts”? Why do we hesitate to make a new friend? Those are questions that I can answer- we are afraid of being shunned and deemed “uncool”. A question I will never understand and I can’t answer is why we take suicide and depression so lightly until it hits us or our family where it hurts. If you see something say something. Anything. It doesn’t need to be an inspirational quote, it can just be a hey in the hallways. I know it seems cliche but it’s true, it does help. So, am I too fat? No. Did I say something wrong? Probably. Can you see my sweat stains from gym? I don’t care. I already have my answers but do I still think about it every day? Yes, I do. Why? Because that’s my reality until I change it.