A Twin Flame

And it continues…

Two weeks ago I discussed how superhero friends are truly a man-made gift. To recap: a superhero friend is an individual who knows you like the back of their dominant hand and knows nothing else but loyalty. At times it seems their one and only purpose in life is to add stability and be there for you for moral support; but, let’s not forget the necessary addition of bad decisions and pure chaos they bring when having two contrasting minds be friends. 

Now, 

I wouldn’t technically describe these next pair of individuals as a die-hard best friend sorta thing, rather a twin, a twin flame if you will. People who I have talked to enough in order to know their likes, dislikes, interests, and morals. Everything that they have said or done I understood, or have done it before. They are the exact reflection of me and talking with them is easy, I don’t have to think about what I’ll say next, and the conversation flows as if I’m already having an internal discussion with myself. They are the exact reason why I feel seen, heard, and safe. 

Let’s start with Duncan, shall we? I’ve known him for thirteen years now. He is one of the smartest, funniest, and arguably the most talented individual I have ever met. Not to be the bearer of bad news but this story is kind of an odd one, a devastation actually brought us together, it made us closer. He was under the impression he was different and no one understood him, he was convinced down to his last molecule that he will never open up, never let anyone in, never share an ounce of emotion. Until he did. Duncan is truly the one person that could change my rbf into a smile, make me laugh, make me feel–that’s a big one. I think that is actually the reason why this friendship works, our stubborn tendencies and lack of wanting to express and regulate our emotions is what may or may be the reason why we like being around each other. I mean, it’s hard, why trust people when we live in a world like this? Regardless though, Duncan is an individual that makes me feel not alone. Oh and if I described him with a color it’d be purple, that’s his favorite!

Next is Lei. 

I met her around this time last year actually, I trained her while I was working at Empire Downtown Naperville–never work there by the way– but that’s a story for another day.. Anyways, Lei is a special person. I gravitated to her instantly as soon as she spoke. She told me she was from Hawaii and moved here somewhat recently. While she was speaking my brain was empty and I was completely in awe. Before I even said a word I wondered if she knew what I was going to say next. She is the exact definition of a twin flame. Every single word uttered I had agreed with. At our age, there is not much to do, you can party, you can hang out with friends, you can get a job, you can maybe go to Chicago in your free time, but there are no real raw moments anymore. Social media is something we have all adopted out of pure boredom and it is actually more rare to find someone without a popular platform than to have one. And Lei was one of them, and so was I. We immediately took a step back and both looked at each other in a daze, this moment was actually surreal as silly as it sounds. We discussed more. By the end of the night, I could tell you her life story and she could tell you mine. I was so fascinated talking to someone who shares so many interests that were similar to mine, we kind of forgot we were working for half of the time and I’m sure customers were angry now that I think about it, but we didn’t care. It was nice finding someone who has a niche for photography, prioritizes the simple moments and mental health.